When the end of your marriage is imminent, the road ahead can seem incredibly overwhelming. Throughout your life you probably never imagined having to prepare yourself for a divorce, much less educate yourself on the specific steps you need to take in advance of divorce proceedings.
Few people are ever truly ready for the rigors of a complex or particularly contentious divorce, but effective preparation can oftentimes be the most significant key to surviving the divorce process.
Just as coastal store owners will do various things to prepare for a hurricane, such as purchase insurance ahead of time or board windows and stack sandbags when a storm is imminent, anyone facing a divorce should take effective steps to ready themselves for the potential storm of a marriage dissolution and all of its inherent challenges.
Generally speaking, there are three facets of readiness on which you should focus your preparation efforts. Anyone who is getting a divorce should ready themselves emotionally, financially, and logistically.
Getting a divorce will not fail to exact a significant emotional toll on you, and the less you and your spouse agree on, the harder it will be. If you have children that also adds another layer of emotional intensity to the proceedings. You need to be ready for waves of wide-ranging and overwhelming feelings that can easily lead to lapses in judgement, errors in how you handle your divorce, and even stress-related physical and mental health struggles. Understand that, under most circumstances, you will not be able to avoid the emotional toll of a divorce, but you can utilize strategies to try to offset and ease the burden, such as seeking out counseling, stress-relief techniques, relying on a support network of friends and family, and relying on the day-to-day guidance and counsel of a knowledgeable divorce attorney who can help make sure your actions are always based in logic rather than emotion.
The financial side of divorce is one that cannot be overlooked. Certainly, you must prepare yourself for the post-divorce financial impact, but you also need to consider the financial implications of the divorce while it is ongoing, especially if you previously relied on your spouse’s income. You may be able to achieve court-ordered financial assistance like alimony as a result of your divorce, but divorce proceedings can sometimes take a significant amount of time and you will need to be ready for the financial burden of the time period prior to your divorce being finalized. Consider taking actions like temporarily moving in with a friend or relative or seeking out gainful employment.
Logistical efforts can relate to any of the practical efforts you will need to take to prepare for the proceedings, such as hiring an attorney, gathering important paperwork, and any other organization efforts that will help your case. Organization is the key to preparing yourself logistically for a divorce. Be diligent and comprehensive, even if you don’t expect your divorce to be contentious. The fact is, any divorce could potentially become nasty at any time, and you need to be prepared to put your best foot forward if such a situation does occur.
If you are considering getting a divorce, please contact the Vasquez de Lara Law Group today and let us help advise you on how to prepare emotionally, financially, and logistically for the end of your marriage as well as life afterwards.